Ep. 50: Stop Being Superwoman, and You’ll Find Superman: with Andre Paradis

Ever wonder why women, once they took on the role of breadwinner, became more stressed out and, thus, less happy?

The reason may be politically inconvenient, but that doesn’t make it any less true.

Women have a fraction of the amount of testosterone men do, and testosterone is in part responsible for why men are able to be single focused and get energized from it as a result.

That’s not how it works for most women. They become drained when they try to focus so intently on one thing and try to screen out everything else.

Most women cannot block out the details of life. They feel compelled to address more than one thing at a time since that is how their brains work. So when they try and do things the “male” way—i.e. go to the office and focus exclusively on that for 8 or 10 hours—they become overwhelmed. They can’t stop thinking about everything else they have to do.

Of course, to hear the media tell it, this predicament is men’s fault. If men would just do their share women could get it all done! But that’s not the way it works.

Andre Paradix of Project Equinox is back to talk with Suzanne about this massive difference between women and men and how knowing, and accepting, this difference will improve your relationship overnight. If you let it.


9:20  why women are unhappy and drained

10:30  the instinct in men is to provide and protect

11:50  why the feminist message only services a small portion of women

12:10  why masculinity is discouraged in men but encouraged in women

14:05  the natural flow between men and women and letting go of the “superwoman complex”

16:55  how women feel that less they are productive in society, like men, they are useless

17:20  why traditional roles work

19:00  why stress hurts women differently than it hurts men

21: 40 why men are more “single focused” than women

22:45  why understanding the nature of men solves so many relationship problems

27:40  why there’s a price to pay when the roles are reversed

28:30  what happens when  women no longer to tap into their femininity

28:50 what femininity does for men

36:20  why being overly emotional is not productive for men

38:40  when you disrupt human nature, it causes a lot of problems

Suzanne Venker

Suzanne is an author, a coach, and a podcast host committed to helping women let go of cultural beliefs that undermine their happiness in life and in love.