Ep. 96: The Queen Bee Syndrome: Feminism and the Black Community:
India Lee Starks

Several weeks ago I posted an interview with Adam Coleman, author of the book From Black Victim to Black Victor, where Coleman outlines the ways in which the black community has been conditioned to believe they’re oppressed and how black women in particular have fallen for feminism to the detriment of their families and even themselves.

Shortly thereafter, I received an email from India Lee Starks who loved the interview and who emphasized this question that came up in my interview with Coleman: “Why are black women forgiven for failing to select better men?” Here’s what India, who is black, had to say:

“Why are black women NEVER accountable for ANYTHING?! That can go for women in general, also. But when I look at my counterparts these days, the “modern black woman,” my heart fills with grief. They are far from the heroines of the “Greatest Generation” and generations before. They are entitled, arrogant, and selfish. It’s painful to witness. They champion single motherhood like it’s an achievement and have become oppressive and demoralizing in their attitude and treatment towards black men! It’s nauseating.”

I subsequently invited India on to discuss how feminism has affected the black community.

India Lee Starks, 34, was born and raised in Williamsburg, VA and currently lives in the DC area. She worked for Teach for America in 2011 and the DC Corps from 2011-2013. She then graduated from law school and afterward helped open a newly opened charter school. In 2018, she worked for a year in the White House and now works for the Department of Education, Office of Civil Rights. India is newly married with two teenage stepsons.


9:50  How women in the black community shifted in their response to men

12:30  India talks about her family history and why she didn’t take to feminist ideology

16:25  Parenting is the last, best hope to counteract what your kids are absorbing

17:50  What women choose to wear is how they communicate

21:15   Black families are leading the charge with single parent homes at 64%

23:50  How feminism affected the black community and the breakdown of the family

26:55  Father absence

32:15  Women are tired of being “strong”

35:00  Black women have become audacious and arrogant when it comes to men

36:00  Feminism has shifted women’s identities to a focus on their careers and jobs and away from being mothers

39:30  Feminists want a matriarchy

39:50  India talks about her work in the White House with the Trump Administration and the environment with her male co-workers

47:30  Feminism has tapped into women’s emotional center

50:10  Women are promoting their own interests instead of doing what is right by our communities and families

Suzanne Venker

Suzanne is an author, a coach, and a podcast host committed to helping women let go of cultural beliefs that undermine their happiness in life and in love.